Re: Why do people still get married?

On Sun, 18 May 2008 09:05:30 GMT, bill van <billvan@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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wrote:

>In article <695sg6F31el7sU1@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
> Greg Goss <gossg@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>
>> "Lisa Ann" <lisa-ann@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> 
>> >Actually, I'm surprised that none of you here have given me grief
about 
>> >Scott.  Because it was in February of 2007 that I said I was pretty
sure I'd 
>> >never get married again.
>> >
>> >Then again, it took me 7 years to find Scott, so...
>> 
>> I was going to hassle you over the "will be married" comment a few
>> days ago.  But I didn't want to seem critical.
>> 
>> For an extended period in 06 and 07, I was interested in someone in
>> Vancouver.  She has self-image problems and got burned badly in 2000,
>> and wasn't ever going to try romance again.  Suddenly she's happy
>> about her new boyfriend.
>> 
>> "He wouldn't take "no" for an answer."  (not about ***, but about a
>> relation****p.)  So I wonder if I left her TOO MUCH room to find
>> herself.  He pushed harder.  Am I single because I am willing to
>> accept an answer I don't like?
>
>Dude, you have in no way stopped mourning. Every second post of yours (I 
>exaggerate, but it seems) is about Wendy. So many things remind you of 
>something you experienced with Wendy. I'm not saying that's wrong, but 
>you have to realize you're not nearly over her. As long as Wendy remains 
>the most im****tant thing in your life, there isn't room for a close 
>relation****p with anyone else.
>
>A new partner has to be someone with whom you connect because you are 
>interested in each other, NOT because you are desperately trying to fill 
>the void left by Wendy.
>
>My best advice: stop trying so hard. There is a ton of stuff you are 
>interested in. Go find circles of people who do that kind of stuff, and 
>do it with them -- for the sake of doing it, not for the sake of 
>establi****ng a relation****p. Do not be in a hurry. In order to get what 
>you want, you have to stop wanting it so badly. No, really.


I second your thoughts re: Greg, and thank you for some thoughts I can
apply to my own life.

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Pauly-thanks