Re: Why do people still get married?

In article <695sg6F31el7sU1@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
 Greg Goss <gossg@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

> "Lisa Ann" <lisa-ann@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> 
> >Actually, I'm surprised that none of you here have given me grief about

> >Scott.  Because it was in February of 2007 that I said I was pretty
sure I'd 
> >never get married again.
> >
> >Then again, it took me 7 years to find Scott, so...
> 
> I was going to hassle you over the "will be married" comment a few
> days ago.  But I didn't want to seem critical.
> 
> For an extended period in 06 and 07, I was interested in someone in
> Vancouver.  She has self-image problems and got burned badly in 2000,
> and wasn't ever going to try romance again.  Suddenly she's happy
> about her new boyfriend.
> 
> "He wouldn't take "no" for an answer."  (not about ***, but about a
> relation****p.)  So I wonder if I left her TOO MUCH room to find
> herself.  He pushed harder.  Am I single because I am willing to
> accept an answer I don't like?

Dude, you have in no way stopped mourning. Every second post of yours (I 
exaggerate, but it seems) is about Wendy. So many things remind you of 
something you experienced with Wendy. I'm not saying that's wrong, but 
you have to realize you're not nearly over her. As long as Wendy remains 
the most im****tant thing in your life, there isn't room for a close 
relation****p with anyone else.

A new partner has to be someone with whom you connect because you are 
interested in each other, NOT because you are desperately trying to fill 
the void left by Wendy.

My best advice: stop trying so hard. There is a ton of stuff you are 
interested in. Go find circles of people who do that kind of stuff, and 
do it with them -- for the sake of doing it, not for the sake of 
establi****ng a relation****p. Do not be in a hurry. In order to get what 
you want, you have to stop wanting it so badly. No, really.

-- 
bill
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