"Charles Bishop" <ctbishop@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> In article <8%1Uj.13459$GE1.4987@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, "Jim Beaver"
> <jumblejim@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>
> [snip good advice]
>
>>An awful lot of damage has been done by well-meaning people who don't
>>understand the process of grieving. I'm the last guy in the world to
>>proselytize for anything, but I give my unqualified recommendation to
the
>>guys at the Grief Recovery Institute. I feel like I owe them my life.
>>I've
>>recommended their book and their program to dozens of people, and every
>>single one of them who has followed up on the recommendation has told me
>>they had the same results I had. I hope you give it some thought.
>>
>
> For how long after the death would the workshop be useful? Is it
> structured so that there might be a hypothetical maximum?
>
> The Friends also have workshops, but I think they say that they can do
> more good if some time p***** before you attend.
There's no time limit. Some of the most successful stories have been
those
of people who had spent years agonizing over a loss, only to find,
finally,
a means of coming to useful terms with it. In my own workshop, there was
a
woman in her thirties. She had lost her father at something like 11. She
said her entire life had been ruined by her inability to get past her
grief.
She told us she had tried twenty or thirty different programs, and that
she
had come to a decision that if this last one, the Grief Recovery program,
didn't provide something positive, she was going to take her own life.
She
only revealed that at the end of the weekend. She said that not only had
the program helped her, but that she now wanted to take the training
course
in order to be one of the people who administers the workshops. Four
years
later, all is still well and quite positive with her.
On the other end of the spectrum, there was a couple there who had lost
their teenaged son just a week or so earlier. I'm still in touch with
them,
and they tell me that it saved their marriage and their sanity. These are
just anecdotal, of course. But I've never heard an anecdote about someone
who found it ineffective.
Hope this helps.
Jim Beaver
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