Re: Grief.

Charles Wm. Dimmick <cdimmick@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

> darkon wrote:
>> Charles Wm. Dimmick <cdimmick@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> 
>>> dilbert firestorm wrote:
>>>> anyone know what to do handle grief?
>>>>
>>>> my dad died in late February 2008 and my mom misses him and
>>>> has crying spells.
>>>>
>>>> my grandmother who's 93 isn't really helping with my mom
>>>> handle the grief as there is a bit of long running drama
>>>> between the two. (not exactly the favorite daughter one would
>>>> expect of a mother) 
>>>>
>>>> I try my best, but I don't know what to do ease her pain.
>>>>
>>>> does grief counseling be of any help for my mom?
>>>>
>>> Grief counseling can work wonders, but it requires the
>>> cooperation of the griefee. There are several people in
>>> our parish who are good at this [I'm not one of them].
>> 
>> Can you -- or anyone else -- describe what's involved in grief 
>> counselling?  I don't have any idea where to start, except to
>> let the person know you care and lend an ear when wanted.
> 
> All I know for sure is that the person who is good at this
> sort of grief counseling has a finely-attuned sense of empathy,
> and can "play it by ear" in terms of knowing what to do with
> any one person grieving. I totally lack that talent, which is
> why I leave it to others. I have been assigned to help with
> some cases, but only when it was determined by others that
> my own peculiar talents would be helpful. This essentially
> consists of putting people to work at various tasks. We get
> a lot of useful work done around the Church by people working
> their way out of grief.

Thanks.  That sounds like what I did when a good friend died a few 
years ago.  I normally dislike yard work, but I did a lot of it in 
the weeks after he died, along with cleaning and organizing the 
garage.