Dover Beach <moon.blanched@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> Veronique <veroniqueunique@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> I try very hard not to have a "best friend" but a
>> very good friend of mine, with whom I spent several hours
>> several days a week for the previous three years, moved out of
>> state eighteen months ago, and it took me quite awhile to get
>> used to not having her around to bounce stuff off of.
>
> Yeah, the "best friend" politics can be very exclusionary. I
I've tried to avoid ranking friends, too. Still, there's only one
obvious candidate if I were to assign a best friend, because
there's only one friend with whom I exchange frequent telephone
calls and visit frequently. I took off work to go to his mother's
funeral last month. I barely knew her, but I wanted to be there
for him. And if the damn weather would cooperate we'd have already
gone camping this year, but it's been cold and wet. Unfortunately
he lives about 100 miles away.
> don't have one anymore, I just have the three women I mentioned
> (and one ex-boyfriend, I suppose) that I could call up and
> ramble on with about anything. And maybe I should. It would
> just be nice if someone were in town to go hang out with
> sometimes.
I can sympathize. There's really no-one I know locally with whom I
share enough interests and who is available to just hang around
with.
I'm glad I have some online (male) friends I can talk to. Nothing
against women, and I love darkette, but talking to her is just not
the same. Luckily she understands that, and so we each have no
problems when one of us spends time with his or her friends and the
other is not invited. We *could* tag along, but we really don't
want to. It's good to have her there, and sometimes it's good to
get away. (I seriously WANT to get out of town, away from people,
buildings, and cars for a few days and just see hills and trees.)
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