"Dover Beach" <moon.blanched@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> Veronique <veroniqueunique@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> On May 4, 3:30 pm, Dover Beach <moon.blanc...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>> the last time you made a really close friend? Someone you could call
>>> any time and tell practically anything to? I think it's been 14
>>> years since I made a close friend like that. I try hard to keep the
>>> ones I've got, since the new ones don't seem to be thick on the
>>> ground.
>>>
>>
>>
>> Are things okay?
>
> Meh. We're having ANOTHER reorg at work and it's tiresome and brings
> out all the animosities. My department is being largely left alone, but
> I'm still caught up in it. Also, one of my staff is being a snot
> because I had to (justifiably) reprimand her for something. In general,
> I'm surrounded all day by people I don't really like and wouldn't choose
> to hang out with, but here we all are!
>
>> I try very hard not to have a "best friend" but a
>> very good friend of mine, with whom I spent several hours several days
>> a week for the previous three years, moved out of state eighteen
>> months ago, and it took me quite awhile to get used to not having her
>> around to bounce stuff off of.
>>
>>
>
> Yeah, the "best friend" politics can be very exclusionary. I don't have
> one anymore, I just have the three women I mentioned (and one
> ex-boyfriend, I suppose) that I could call up and ramble on with about
> anything. And maybe I should. It would just be nice if someone were in
> town to go hang out with sometimes.
Mom is giong through the "best friend" competition right now, with Angel.
She's finding it exhausting because she feels (and I agree) that at her
age - and Angel's age - there shouldn't be this pettiness involved in
friend****ps, nor should it be a requirement that they speak on a daily
basis. There's been a few times when Angel has gotten dangerously close
to
the line where Mom is ready to tell her, "Look, I don't have time for
this."
Usually that's when Angel is trying to monopolize her while I'm there, or
my
sister is there.
Mom started out encouraging me to hang out with Angel also - presumably to
give Mom a rest - but I can't handle being around someone where you have
to
carefully scrutinize your vocabulary and tone of voice for fear of
upsetting
them. Finally, Mom realized that I wasn't going to watch my mouth around
Angel (and I have hurt her feelings), so has stopped pu****ng me. I like
Angel, but in small doses. And some of the times I've gotten annoyed with
her has been when I really wanted to talk to Mom without an audience and
I've said, somewhat humorously, "Angel, can I have my Mom back now? This
is
sort of im****tant."
As for the last close friend I've made, I guess that's Scott. Or Barrett.
Lisa Ann
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