On May 4, 8:17 pm, QueBarbara <que.barbara.l...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> On Sun, 4 May 2008 19:52:20 -0700 (PDT), Veronique
>
> <veroniqueuni...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> >On May 4, 3:30 pm, Dover Beach <moon.blanc...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> >> the last time you made a really close friend? Someone you could call
> >> any time and tell practically anything to? I think it's been 14
years
> >> since I made a close friend like that. I try hard to keep the ones
I've
> >> got, since the new ones don't seem to be thick on the ground.
>
> >Are things okay? I try very hard not to have a "best friend" but a
> >very good friend of mine, with whom I spent several hours several days
> >a week for the previous three years, moved out of state eighteen
> >months ago, and it took me quite awhile to get used to not having her
> >around to bounce stuff off of.
>
> Why do you try hard not to have a "best friend?"
Because I usually have at least two or three fairly close friends at
any given moment, I like a lot of people, and "best friend" has those
clique-ish connotations. My oldest friend I met in kindergarten (she
married a cowboy and lives in Wyoming and I haven't seen her for ages,
but we still write), my college buddies have scattered to Scotland and
France and Durango at the moment, the horse-riding friend of my heart
is in Arizona, my sister is in Maryland, and I have several good and
great friends here, and no way can I quantify one as "best."
Alternatively, I've been the odd one out in three-way "who's your best
friend?" power struggles, and I'm approximately forty years beyond
needing to either go there or be put there. Of course in retrospect, I
can probably say so-and-so was my best friend at any given time, but
it makes me uncomfortable trying to quantify friend****p in present.
V.
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Veronique Chez Sheep
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